I sat in her living room with thirty other women feeling like I was being let in on the biggest, best, most well-kept secret EVER: that the key to a woman’s life is pursuing her pleasure. I was twenty-two and I was so ecstatically grateful to get let in on this juicy morsel so early in life.

I’m doing back flips over how excited I am to introduce this dear friend, mentor, and way-shower to you today. She’s uncovering one of her greatest creations to date, Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp, and I wanted the brilliant women (and the few brave men) on my list to know about it!

I can honestly say that being a student at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts is one of the top three reasons my life rocks my socks off in so many ways. Recently, my friend Jill Rogers, creator of The Seven Sacred Steps (more on this in a future Glimpse TV episode) called Regena a “woman whisperer.” She’s right. Regena could get the panties of any woman on the planet out of a wrinkle. I swear to you.

She’s my secret weapon for LOVING my life.

Last week Regena and I had a Skype date where we covered everything from the story of subterfuge in which my sister and I conspired to have her meet our mother to the gems for unwrinkling your panties hidden within Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp. Tune in for a good giggle and a little pleasure infusion.

Click for The Top 5 Ways Women Lose Their Pleasure and How to Find It Again and about Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp.

You won’t want to miss this particularly juicy episode of Glimpse TV that I shot this past week in San Francisco with Nicole. If the fact that we’re talking about sex isn’t enough to entice you to watch, tune in to find out why I’m not scared of being “too big” anymore.

Come hang with me in NYC.

It’s called Selling Your Soul and it’s on May 12th in downtown New York City and it’s all about doing business from a place of being your no apologies, freak-flag-flying, most authentic self. These women have huge ovaries and are inspiring beyond belief. I’m so excited I can barely stand it.

One of my most favorite urgings that I’ve heard from Danielle before is to create a “stop-doing” list. I’ve avoided this exercise because I’m afraid to put things in writing that I know that I shouldn’t do anymore. There are certain things on the list below that for whatever reason I hold onto with a death grip even though I know they’re not a good use of my time or energy and no longer serve me.

The super-nova shivers.

Perhaps not wanting to put this out there is a fear of really being BIG. Like if I truly stop doing the things below that are thwarting me at every turn, I’ll super-nova to a level of success and joy that I won’t even know how to handle. Well, hell. I’ve never let fear hold me back for very long before, so I’m putting it out here now!

So, without further ado, here’s my “stop-doing” list. Read it. Let it inspire you. Then share yours below (or link to your blog on the comments below) and lets start a “stop-doing” revolution!

My “Stop-Doing” List

1.    Detail oriented tasks. I’m a big picture person and I don’t think in details.

2.     Feeling bad about sleeping until I’m ready to get out of bed.

3.    Not telling the truth. There’s a difference between lying and not telling the truth. I’m a terrible liar but I’m a genius at not telling the truth. This is a tendency I’ve been unraveling over the past year and it definitely belongs on the “stop-doing” list.

4.    Saying “yes” to things simply because I want people to like me or because I feel bad.

5.     Scheduling myself within an inch of my life so that I don’t even realize that an entire day has passed and I wake up in the morning feeling like I’m in the movie Groundhog Day.

6.    Feeling guilty about doing things that are pure pleasure and that I am doing simply for fun and not because they bring in revenue or get me closer to a big goal.

7.    Finding myself wrong. Period.

8.     Embarking on business ventures, partnerships, or affiliate agreements with anyone or anything that doesn’t feel like a “Hell yes!” when the opportunity comes across my plate.

9.    Disapproving of other people in my life when I’m really projecting on them something I need to look at more closely in my own life.

10.     Prioritizing my work before exercise and healthy food.

11.    Beating myself up for not replying to every single email that comes into my inbox personally (or at all).

12.    Comparing myself to anyone else in my life or in my industry and thinking that because I’m not them and what I’m doing doesn’t look like what they’re doing that I’m doing it wrong.

13.    Living my life according to what “looks good”, what I think I’m supposed to be doing, or what I think my mother, father, or anyone else thinks I should be doing.

Aaaah, that felt cathartic. I can’t WAIT to read your “stop-doing” list because I’m sure it will inspire me to stop doing more things that will open up space for more fun, pleasure, love, money, and goodness than I ever imagined possible.

Find out about Selling Your Soul by clicking below:

If you want more Marie for free, here’s a fabulous video about how women she works with make it BIG online in all different industries. If you are a woman and have a business, this is a MUST watch.

The secret to everlasting weight loss: Glimpse TV with Jena La Flamme from Kate Moller on Vimeo.

Jena La Flamme is purely and simply a radiant being. We met five years ago at a pool party in the middle of Times Square when I first moved to NYC and I knew immediately that there was something special about her. Jena founded Jena Wellness Center in 2007 when she made a commitment to dedicate her life to helping women get the body of their dreams in healthy, lasting, pleasurable, natural ways.

Jena and me in NYC.

I took a break from The Freedom Tour Tuesday and was delighted to have Jena on Glimpse TV as my first virtual guest. Having been around the most cutting edge information on nutrition and weight loss my entire life, I was pleasantly surprised by how eye opening Jena’s perspective on the topic is. Our brief but action-packed conversation shifted my perspective on my body and has had me thinking in a new way about food for the past two days.

Tune in to find out how treating your body like an animal can lead to lasting weight loss and how to completely transform your relationship to food and your body using your innate feminine instincts.

Jena has generously offered a free coaching session to anyone from my community who is interested in the recently unveiled Weight Loss Pleasure Immersion program.

Get access to Jena’s free video series, find out more about the program, and contact Jena by clicking the link below:

http://www.jenawellness.com/immersion/go/?ref=3340&promo_id=3

Was Jena’s take on weight loss as eye opening for you as it was for me?

What are your thoughts on this feminine, pleasurable approach to weight loss?

Leave a comment. I’d love to know what you think!

***Also, for some reason I had the comments off on my last post, I’m living in a Toyota Prius: Photo Chronicle of the Freedom Tour Part One. It made me sad not to be able to hear from you so if you didn’t get a chance to check it out, check it out now and leave a comment!***

I’m proud to be an affiliate of Jena Wellness.

A meeting that didn’t quite go as planned.

Last February I sat across from my mom’s literary agent, Ned Leavitt, at lunch. I had scheduled the lunch to ask him questions about the publishing world as I was beginning to get a hankering to write a book. And that’s what we talked about…for the most part.

At the end of lunch as we were paying the bill and Ned began a conversation that both surprised and unraveled me. Here it is, paraphrased to the best of my memory:

Ned: I was so glad when I received your invitation to lunch, Kate, because there’s something I’ve been wanting to ask you for a while. What ever happened to your singing?

Me: Oh no, that’s my sister you’re thinking of. She’s the singer.

Ned: No, not your sister. You. I have a vivid memory of you singing for your mother’s fiftieth birthday. Something came through you when you sang that was so earthy and vital and alive and I’ve never forgotten it. What ever happened to your singing?

Me (in tears): Well, I guess the answer to your question is what I just said: my sister.

Hiding my light under a bushel.

(Thanks for the expression, Mom!)

***Necessary interjection: My sister and I have an amazing, deep friendship. We love each other so much and support each other in everything we do. I realized in this moment with Ned that I had given up performing at eighteen after landing a starring role in a Brown University musical my Freshman year because I subconsciously thought that there was only room for one performer in our family. My sister seemed to want it more so I decided to switch directions and focus more on business than on being an artist. Let it be known publicly that my sister is my biggest fan, has encouraged me to tap back into my artist/performer self continuously and has never, in any way, dissuaded me from shining. Any hang ups I’ve had about this have been purely in my head. Thank you Annie for being the most amazing sister I could ever dream of. ***

After I blew my nose and got myself back together, I explained to Ned that I had given up singing and performing so as not to be in competition with my sister. He told me that though he had no doubt that  part of my purpose was to be a leader and community builder in the business world, he suspected there was something else in me.

F*ck it.

Six months later my friend Kirsten Lewis began producing a cabaret burlesque show called Paper Dolls. She asked me to do an act and I politely declined saying: “Oh no, I’m too busy/I’m a business woman not a performer/performing in burlesque shows isn’t part of my brand/(insert other stupid excuse here.)”

Given that I’m about to leave NYC, that I’m embarking on a journey into the unknown, and that I’m leaving more space for possibility by allowing myself to be more of who I am and less of who I’m not, I decided that now would be a good time to let my performer come back out to play.

So on Tuesday night at Paper Dolls at Sway Lounge I let “Bubbles” (my stage name) come out to entertain an intimate group of 75 New Yorkers who braved the cold. Sandwiched between a hula dancer, some girls in pasties and tassels, and my friend Kirsten and her baton, I took the mic for a spin.

And though I was scared out of my mind and I was really pissed at myself for saying yes to this before the performance, as soon as I was out on stage and I gave myself permission to lighten up, I LOVED IT! I tapped into a part of myself that I’ve not invited out in public in at least nine years and IT FELT SOOOO GOOD!

A once in a lifetime (sort of).

It’s not lost on me that this all occurred the same week as I deleted my external drive of video footage for Glimpse TV. It’s not lost on me that since Tuesday night I’ve felt happier, more energized, and more inspired than I have all year. I wrote to a group of friends before the performance that this would be a once in a lifetime chance to see me perform. I think I lied. I think I’ll be doing this more often.

Here’s to doing things that freak you out. Here’s to letting your freak flag fly. Here’s to grabbing the mic and serenading someone (or a hundred someones). Here’s to not hiding your light under a bushel. Here’s to giving yourself permission to be seen.

Much love,

Bubbles

***For those of you in NYC, I’ll be performing in Paper Dolls again on Tuesday, January 18th at Sway Lounge in NYC. Join the Paper Dolls Facebook group and my list to make sure you get the invite.***

And now, Glimpse TV presents….Bubbles!

(Disclaimer to make myself feel better because this is really scary to put this out there: the footage is not professional, there were a few mic feedback moments, and my voice is slightly rusty after not singing for nine years. But progress not perfection! I’m proud enough of it to share it with you so enjoy!)

My NYC Singing Debut: Come Rain or Come Shine from Kate Moller on Vimeo.

What have you done lately that freaked you out?

How did you feel afterward?

Is there a part of you that hasn’t come out in a while that it might be time to invite out of hiding?

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