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Learning to Love Logistics and the Freedom of Getting Your Shit Together

Learning to Love Logistics and the Freedom of Getting Your Shit Together

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Logistics can be a pain in the ass.

While I sometimes find filling out paperwork oddly soothing, I have a tendency to be just one signature or one form away from getting the job done. (E.g., I’m almost 100% Kate Northrup Watts except for my driver’s license because, really, who likes going to the DMV?)

But getting our logistics handled gives us the brain space and energetic freedom to focus on bigger things like following our bliss, making meaning of life, and you know, enlightenment.

Chaos in your logistical life distracts you from what really matters. (Tweet it!)

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Logistical chaos – like always scrambling to pay your rent and living under a mountain of tax documents that you never seem to finish – can be a culturally acceptable form of avoidance.

The Pay-Off of Busy

Our culture worships “busy,” and logistics are great at creating “busy.”

And constant busyness is one of the best ways to avoid true intimacy with ourselves and others. It’s those moments in between busy times where the breakthroughs usually happen. And the breakthroughs often require us to feel things that are uncomfortable. So logistical chaos, while seemingly uncomfortable, actually feels better than getting our shit together.

When you pay your credit card bill on time, put money aside for your mortgage, sit down with your lawyer to create an estate plan before you think it’s entirely necessary (side note: it’s always necessary), you free yourself up to be present for your kids, for your spouse, for your family, for your friends, and most importantly, for yourself.

Learning to Love Logistics

If you’re not someone who gravitates toward being logistically organized, I recommend making logistics a spiritual practice (or at least finding ways to make them fun).

I’ve been resisting making appointments to interview potential new financial advisors for a while now. It doesn’t feel urgent. We have more important things to do. It takes time I don’t feel like spending.

But I know how powerful getting our financial house in order is as a foundation for building our dreams.

So, rather than categorize “find new financial advisor” as a task outside what I want to spend my time and energy on, I’m pulling it under the umbrella of “tasks for practical spiritual living.”

Caring for our logistics is part of caring for ourselves. (Tweet it!)

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Caring for ourselves, of course, is not only a spiritual practice, but also paramount to truly caring for anyone else (as opposed to caring for them in a way that leaves us drained and resentful because we’re not caring for ourselves first or at least simultaneously).

Over to you:

So this week, what can you do to dot some i’s and cross some t’s in your logistical life? What logistical item can you handle so you free up some bandwidth for the stuff that you find the most meaningful?

I’ll be making appointments to meet new financial advisors. I’d love to hear what you’ll be doing – and how you’re going to reframe it to make you want to do it more – in the comments below!

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Sick of saying yes when you mean no?

Sick of saying yes when you mean no?

Since being pregnant my internal “no’s” and “yes’s” have gotten significantly louder. Waffling barely exists anymore. I’m not trying to talk myself into things I don’t really want to do. The boundaries are loud, proud, and clear. I thought I was getting pretty good at saying no before getting pregnant. But the clarity I have… Continue Reading

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Your body knows how to do this

Your body knows how to do this

The other night at birth class Mike and I learned about the reptilian brain, the mammalian brain, and the neo-cortex. (Mike shot a highly entertaining and informative video about it in the context of birth – check it out.) What Our Brains Are Up To While I’m by no means a neuroscientist, the long and… Continue Reading

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Two Money Blocks in Your Home and How to Fix Them

Two Money Blocks in Your Home and How to Fix Them

I don’t talk much about the fact that I used to have a professional Feng Shui consulting business, but I did. Helping people arrange their space to support fulfilling their dreams is something I adore doing. I stopped offering consultations to the public because I didn’t love the business model of trading hours for dollars.… Continue Reading

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Warts And All

The other night I had a “spiritual nightcap” with Robert Holden, author of the bestseller Happiness NOW, among others. Beyond his incredibly charming British accent and unassuming sense of humor, I was struck by something he said:  He’s about SELF-ACCEPTANCE as opposed to SELF-IMPROVEMENT. As those words came out of his mouth I could feel… Continue Reading

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The Value of the Vacuum

It turns out that most of our life circumstances are a choice. We can bitch and moan all we like, but when we’re really honest we’ve made a decision, conscious or unconscious: to stay at that job that sucks our soul to stay with that person who doesn’t bring out our best to stay on… Continue Reading

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Setting women and girls free.

I received a beautiful email in January from a woman named Erin Giles on a mission. She asked me to write an essay on freedom to contribute to a book she’s putting together to free women and girls. The book was inspired by a film called Nefarious: Merchant of Souls about the human sex trafficking… Continue Reading

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How to know when it’s time to quit.

I remember when I was growing up, the other kids would tell me that they hated going to basketball or lacrosse practice, but their parents had taught them not to be quitters so they just toughed it out. I was always totally mystified by this. I had tried and quit just about every sport available… Continue Reading

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Freedom is an Inside Job

The Freedom Tour has taught me several lessons about myself, love and life: But one of the most important lessons of all: freedom is an inside job This summer I had a chance to experience it first hand – in a dressing room. Of all places. I took a branded shopping trip with my friend… Continue Reading

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